The great thing about talking about whatever you want is that you don’t have to worry about wasting your time with a second date!
I’m very experienced in first dates and what I want to get out of it is if I see that person as someone I can speak freely around and not want to punch in the face every time they speak about “sensitive subjects.” I don’t want to stifle myself for the sake of pleasant conversation only to find out a few weeks later that you’re a Trump supporter with a confederate flag in your bedroom. That is a waste of both of our time. Instead, talk about everything, but not the weather.
If you’re having a good conversation, it’s likely that these things will come up anyway. It’s way easier to decide whether or not you want to see this person again if you both express your opinions on these things and have a healthy conversation.
1. Favorite Movies/ movies/tv show you want to see:
Do we share the same interests in pop culture? Did this person grow up in the same decade as me and will understand random movie references?
2. Politics:
Yeah, I want to know if you swing to the right.
3. Your neighborhood/commute:
Will I be able to visit you easily?
4. Religion:
The religion you grew up with verses what you think as an adult is very fascinating. And the knowledge will lead to a better understanding of that person.
5. Sex/relationships:
Go ahead, talk about your opinions on how your friend handled her wedding. Or whether your date just got out of a 5 year relationship (don’t even waste your time).
6. Drug Use:
Doesn’t matter what you’re personal beliefs are, but it helps to know if you’re on the same page with this one.
7. Favorite Food:
Maybe you’re at a location where you can eat this in front of your date!
8. If you’re a cat or dog person:
What I really want to know is if we are compatible living together.
9. Current events and your opinions on them:
Boaty McBoatface, LGBT legislation in NC, Bernie Sanders, whatever.
10. Where you see yourself in 5 years:
Having a plan for your life is important, even if you can’t implement it now. Someone who is settled into a life of no ambition is not someone worth your time.
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Heather Allen 